Still Single?!

So you’re 25, 35 etc. and yes you’re still single, and no you don’t really want to be that way, and NO there isn’t anything wrong with you! You’ve just come back shopping for another bridesmaid dress, and it feels like your heart is breaking. It’s not like you want to marry him! But seeing them together, or just planning the wedding hurts A LOT!!! Especially if they are a godly couple, because there is a longing inside of you, put there by God to be known to be loved, cherished and protected. Yet somehow when we feel this, it makes us feel like bad Christians, like we’re saying God is not enough. Yet God has put the desire there!!! It has been a real struggle for me personally to realize there is not something wrong with me for wanting a man. Before I started dealing with my issues, I pushed guys away, and hated them and the idea of wanting one, although deep inside I did want one. Now where I’ve started to deal with the stuff which is part of living in a broken world, I realize I do want a man and that’s ok… it’s actually a God given desire.



Sometimes as a single young lady, it’s hard not to think there is something wrong with you, especially when people make comments about your looks, personality etc. And you’re so over people matchmaking you, you just wish people (excluding Mr. Right of course) would leave you alone!!! But those are some of the challenges you deal with on a daily basis, as a single woman. And I want to say it’s ok to struggle with your singleness. I know I often do! I also want to say when it feels eina to go to another wedding, kitchen tea, baby shower, kids’ birthday party, or to just be around godly couples- just remember God loves you: He is there! He is you’re comforter (Isa 51v12), He is you’re husband (Isa 54v5; 62v5); and He will never EVER leave you (Joshua 1v5; Heb 13v5). And it’s not always easy, it often feels like you are in the wilderness and you’re promised land is 40 years away! (Let’s hope it’s not!) But when you’re heart is heavy and sore, bring it to Him; He understands- He loves you more than you can know. Ask someone to pray for you, and always ALWAYS remember to keep you’re eyes glued to the cross. He loves you SO much he paid the price for you, He gave it all so you could love, know and be in a relationship with Him. So when the going gets tough- remember there is one who calls you precious, who deems you worthy of his blood, one who pursues you, desires you, one who loves you with a deep unfailing love, one who will never let you go. So open you’re heart: pour it out to him: the good the bad and the ugly, every hurt, every pain, all the longing. He knows you, He loves you, and He wants you’re heart. Respond to the invitation and come as you are to him, even if it’s broken and sore. Accept his heavenly marriage proposal of sharing his everlasting love. May God bless you, keep you, may His face shine upon you now in you’re single days and forever more.